I have suggested all I can think of.
I will say this for me DSLR is the camera of my choice and that of a good number of others for me it is because of the flexibility of a DSLR.
For others they prefer point and shoot for what ever there reason it would seem that for you it is the point and shoot would seem to be better for you to control your camera shake.
When you started this thread you posed the question of DSLR vs Advanced P&S the short answer is simple you pay for what you get. And that is the DSLR will out perform a point and shoot that is the reason why DSLR cameras are more expensive and are the camera of choice by the professionals for years. To compare it is abit like comparing apples to oranges. The point and shot cameras are getting better all the time but they will never be able to do what a DSLR can do
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